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YOU
CANNOT Change anyone else. I Repeat:
CAN
NOT!
Think about it: How
easy is it for YOU to change YOU? Yeah Right. And YOU
are in charge of YOU -- only YOU. So how on earth can you even
imagine you can change someone else. Forget About It.
Changing Ain't Easy. Right? To make even the littlest changes
in your own behavior takes commitment, constant oversight, and
sticking to your commitment no matter how much you want to do
otherwise.
You
need to love the other person EXACTLY as he or she is.
Oh,
Yeah, (you say) And Exactly How Am I Supposed to Do that -- Wait
for the perfect person?
You
need to love yourself EXACTLY as YOU are!
Have
You ever wished people would love You just for being You?
Most of us do. But,
do you really believe that's possible. And if it were, how would
you get there?
Do
you love yourself exactly as you are? With all your drawbacks
and weaknesses? If not, why not?
It
is really important that we all learn to LOVE ourselves. By "love"
I don't mean being swell-headed, arrogant, or "Me-First."
That is not love -- it is trying to make yourself more than okay,
when you are pretty sure you are not.
What
I do mean by "Love" is getting to know the real you
-- the one who does love and care for others, the one that hurts
when things go wrong, not hiding it under mountains of subterfuge.
Really
Loving yourself means taking care of and nurturing that real loving
person within. I heard a What-If told in a seminar once that has
had a great effect on my life and relationships.
Imagine
that your abundance (love and prosperity) in life are like a partially
filled goblet.
-
Now
think about what happens if you take love and abundance out
of your goblet of abundance and give it away.
-
Okay.
Now envision what happens if you fill up your goblet of abundance
till it starts spilling over.
This
is where we need to be with anything we want to give -- fill
ourselves up with our own self loving and self awareness of
our abundance. Then we can give freely and lovingly and never
deplete our own supply.
I
remember a tape that Werner Erhard put out on Relationships
that spoke very clearly on what it takes to have a great relationship
(and he clearly differentiated that from involvements, check
out the dictionary definition on that one). He said that to
be in a good relationship you need to find out exactly what
the other person wants to do in life and support them in doing
that. He also pointed out something like: If the other person
wants to climb and live on Everest and you support him/her in
doing that and if you want to live in Florida and swim with
the dolphins and he/she supports you in doing that, you will
have a great relationship, but you just won't see a lot of each
other.
I
do my best to live my life from that point of view and you would
not believe the wonderful friends I have, some of whom I seldom
see but still love and support. And the nicest thing about this
kind of friendship is, it is truly reciprocal.
